The stereotype of sex and spirituality or “spiritual sex” is: candlelight, slow-motion, light-touch, quiet. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but I’d like to widen the definition. Spiritual can also include vigorous. What makes sex spiritual is not the setting or the trappings or the special effects or lack of them. It’s breaking out […] Read More

Hunger is the driving force for all three: sex, spiritual-seeking, and eating. They form one mighty Gulf Stream: appetite, desire, need, hunger, craving and even ambition. (Just now, I mindlessly rose from the sofa to get two more Hershey’s Kisses — at 10:22 a.m.; hand deep in the candy bag before I realized the irony.) […] Read More

It was 1957 and I was eight years old when I used my ratty-edged 4th-grade student card to get into the movie theater around the corner from my parent’s business in downtown Wilmington. Oh, how well I remember it: that paragon of grown-up male cuteness Pat Boone singing “April Love.” (Let’s ignore his politics, okay?) […] Read More

Here are 8 bits of wisdom on the intersection of sex and spirituality that I drew from Asheville writer Gregg Levoy’s new book, Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion. Though I never thought I’d have any use for algebra or the classical logic course I took (to dodge the college math requirement), somehow […] Read More

An unusual post: obsessive and taking a peculiar course, winding together my wrestle with a mild-ish case of OCD with the political exiles of writer Ariel Dorfman and the effect of an outsider point-of-view on writing styles. Yes, definitely odd. Under the title “Letter to an Exile,” it won first this year in the Intercultural […] Read More

Dan Wakefield reviews a new memoir today on Huffington Post. Here’s his unusual lead-in to this remarkably honest, intimate, and at times spiritual, story: Full disclosure: the filmmaker Betsy Blankenbaker is a friend of mine. She is not, however, an intimate friend. I knew nothing at all about her orgasms until I read her new […] Read More

Last week Hindus celebrated the religion’s splashiest, wildest, most sensuous holiday. Holi is the ecstatic festival to honor the start of spring, the fertility of the land, and the triumph of good over evil. I know of no other religious holiday in any faith that can compare. Holi is the time of year when celebrants […] Read More

In case you missed this on Huffington Post a couple of weeks ago, here’s my most recent sex-and-spirituality post published there. Also, a couple of personal updates below it. Sex Energy on the Brain Kundalini: It’s not a pasta. The Sanskrit root of the word means coiled or spiral. The image of a snake piled […] Read More

When my uncle Luther Taylor was taken to hospice three weeks ago, he said on arrival to a nurse, “How long is this going to take?” He was an adventurous and matter-of-fact man, also sick and ready to go. At his grave yesterday, on a warm and beautiful February afternoon, his daughter, Methodist minister Tuck […] Read More

Do you remember being born? Diane Brandon does, and her book-in-progress, “Born Aware: Memories of Those Spiritually Aware Since Birth”, is about what she and others remember thinking back then. I’m pleased that she invited me to take part in this blog tour “On Intuitive Understanding,” especially since I found her earlier book, Intuition for […] Read More