There ought to be a word or term for it. For art that brings together sexuality and spirituality, the carnal and the religious, the sensual and the ethereal. There isn’t one. Maybe if there were a name for it, there would be more of it. And those of us interested in this topic would know […] Read More

Much interesting response to the post last week about whether to wear the pin showing mermaid and merman in an intimate moment. A gentleman from Turkey contacted me privately with a thoughtful argument against wearing it: because things have more spiritual value if they are not public and available. I gave this some thought. He […] Read More

A few years ago, I bought a pin at a street fair for a couple of bucks. It’s the image of a mermaid and a merman in heated embrace. I think it’s kinda cool — not too terribly tacky. Wouldn’t put it on my skirt suit lapel the day I announced for president; but still, […] Read More

When Dan Wakefield wrote his spiritual autobiography, Returning, the story began in panic and then took many surprising turns. Have a go at writing your own and discover the moments that have been formative in what you believe today. There may be surprises. In Dan Wakefield’s workshops on Writing Spiritual Autobiography, he makes the process […] Read More

Tantalizing title, since it can be read as sex-leading-to-redemption or the-restoring-of-value-to-sex. As it turns out Redeeming Sex, released in the last month, is mainly about how Christian churches need to value sexual diversity. This seems to me so thunderously obvious, simple, right, and long over-due that it was other bits and pieces of this hot-selling […] Read More

New nonfiction about the intertwining of sex and spirituality seems to be coming out at an ever-increasing pace. And some of these books, I’m happy to see, are by religious leaders. Two of the writers who’ve been steady on the subject for a number of years are David Deida,, author of Finding God Through Sex […] Read More

Sometimes I get tired of myself. I start to feel that “I” am sealed in the Tupperware-like container of a “self” that is low-ceilinged and narrow. And here’s the worst of it: I fear I fit the damn Tupperware perfectly and don’t even feel especially guilty about being such a self-absorbed limited creature. However, I […] Read More

A transgender woman’s struggle with and reliance on religion as she goes through the immense change. My new piece is up on Huffington Post. Please have a look (and feel free to Share). From Christine Connelly: “My entire family has shunned me. I’ve been dis-invited to Christmas, birthday celebrations and all family activities because I […] Read More

Loss of innocence is equated with first sexual experience by a multitude of cultures and generations. This is wrong. Innocence is lost when a person learns in a gut way that it’s possible for something important to go permanently irrevocably wrong. That can happen at any age. Certainly such a realization can come about through […] Read More

People of different generations may view gender differently, it seems. My brother Franc Payne offered this charming gender identity account in a recent email: “QUICK UNCLE LUTHER STORY: Our whole family and Granna and Grandaddy were up visiting Taylor Pond on some holiday. We were sitting out on the screen porch …. As usual most […] Read More