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Turning Point: First, The Heart Trouble

February 3, 2017
My blog has a new name and wider focus, this change being part of some mysterious personal turning point. The blog is getting much more personal.  The new title:   EMAILS TO MY THERAPIST: Read More

Troubador of Sex and Spirit: Leonard Cohen

November 14, 2016
As a college freshman, I was pretty sure I’d discovered Leonard Cohen. I didn’t hear him blasting from a lot of other record players on the hall. So it was just Leonard and me. Then I graduated, got a newspaper job, got married, unmarried, remarried. Life and love being what they are, I somehow lost […] Read More

Spirituality, Lust, Trump Sex Scandal

October 10, 2016
This man is making sex look bad. Among his other sins, Republican presidential candidate Donald Trump is using a previously-respected political position to tar the reputation of the, at best, sacred and ecstatic act of sex. Sex and Lust He is also making lust look bad. I don’t believe lust is bad. It’s desire for […] Read More

Oxytocin: Sex Making Men More Spiritual

September 26, 2016
A study at Duke finds that a group of men report a stronger sense of spirituality after a dose of oxytocin, “the love hormone,” which is stimulated by sex. The news is reported on Duke Today, the study published in Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, the lead author social psychologist Patty Van Cappellen. I first […] Read More

Sex Life at Divinity School

August 17, 2016
I once knew a single woman pastor who was dating. What a very delicate situation she dealt with! A veteran minister warned her, “You have everything to lose.” We tend to expect the preacher to be a model of virtue, which is a terribly unfair burden to put on a human. A woman, even now, […] Read More

Good Christian Sex

July 1, 2016
First of all, the subtitle to the new book Good Christian Sex is Why Chastity Isn’t the Only Option and Other Things the Bible Says About Sex. That pretty well positions the views of this author, a minister and the daughter of a minister. What I write about here is not the rights and wrongs […] Read More

Christian Porn? Goodness Gracious!

May 18, 2016
At my request, Google kindly alerts me to news across the web on “sex and spirituality.” I like to keep up on what’s happening and what’s being discussed since I do write a bit about the subject. Most of what shows up has to do with sexual abuse by priests or gender roles in churches […] Read More

Is Sexual Pleasure Taboo?

April 20, 2016
…For girls, that is. A caller on the Diane Rehm radio show just now described himself as “a Christian man” and went on to criticize — justly, in my view — the effect of church attitudes towards towards girls’ sexuality. The topic of the show was the new book Girls & Sex, with author Peggy […] Read More

Sexual Ethics: Sex and Dignity? Seriously?

April 11, 2016
Sex and dignity are two words that don’t seem to belong together. Sex is innately and joyously undignified, while the word dignity often implies primness and good posture. Yet in his new treatise on “The Joy of Love,” Pope Francis uses the word dignity 26 times, several times in a specifically sexual context. This led […] Read More

Spring Festival: Joyous, Sensuous, Fertile

March 25, 2016
This is an explosively fertile week: Easter, with its eggs and resurrection; Holi, the Hindu festival of colors; Nowruz, meaning new light, the Persian New Year; Wicca’s Ostara; the Druid Eostar; Purim, celebrating survival of the Jewish people; and the official first day of spring. Flowers are blooming — my yard, though it gets only […] Read More

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