My New Year’s Resolution (and Subliminal Power Strategy)
My ambitious resolution for this New Year: I'm dropping the habit of self-berating and switching to what's known in the psych biz as "positive self-talk."
I've long felt that berating one's self is the only true waste of time. And I waste a lot of time that way.
I've made efforts before to drop this pernicious destructive habit. They didn't take, or at least not for long.
But now the campaign has been elevated to the status of New Year's Resolution. It will take this time. I declare it here.
And how do I plan to do this? First tactic: I'm using a gizmo, a bit of software I bought last spring. This is going to sound like snake oil, I know, but it has worked for me.
The gizmo is: subliminal messages on my computer. Little flashing messages that I can program myself or choose from a list. I bought the software, called Subliminal Power, after I'd read an article elsewhere about the subliminal message phenom. The studies indicated impressive effectiveness. Being married to a psychologist who does clinical hypnosis, I'm also a pretty good subject.
On the other hand, wrestling as I do with a bit of obsessive compulsive disorder, I'm no champ at what's called thought-stopping. Once a repeating thought gets started, it's damn hard to stop.
When I first tried the software on my screen, I could see tiny flickers here and there, one every few seconds. My first thought: I can't put up with this; it will drive me mad.
After a couple or three minutes, I ceased to see them. So I let the invisible flickers keep flicking.
After a few weeks of experimenting, I found that if I installed a message aimed at mood improvement, my mood improved. I also found I was better able to concentrate when that was my intention. Et cetera.
Some of the messages you can choose are pretty emphatic, having to do with being a man magnet, developing outrageous charisma, blasting depression and unleashing life. Or even losing a few pounds.
As far as I know, no one has been outraged by my charisma since I dropped $39.95 on this software, but in important ways it's working for me.
And so, this is my number one tool in this year's positive self-talk transformation. I'll figure out more tactics if I need them.
In the meantime, it's 11:25 p.m. on the last night of the year. I have 35 more minutes of this life in which to finish the business of giving myself a hard time.
Categories: enhancing creativity
Tags: obsessive compulsive