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Cobalt Blue: A Novel

A novel for courageous readers and seekers, COBALT BLUE is a turbulent, gorgeous ride into sacred sex..

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Christian Porn? Goodness Gracious!

May 18, 2016
At my request, Google kindly alerts me to news across the web on “sex and spirituality.” I like to keep up on what’s happening and what’s being discussed since I do write a bit about the subject. Most of what shows up has to do with sexual abuse by priests or gender roles in churches […] Read More


Is Sexual Pleasure Taboo?

April 20, 2016
…For girls, that is. A caller on the Diane Rehm radio show just now described himself as “a Christian man” and went on to criticize — justly, in my view — the effect of church attitudes towards towards girls’ sexuality. The topic of the show was the new book Girls & Sex, with author Peggy […] Read More

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Sexual Ethics: Sex and Dignity? Seriously?

April 11, 2016
Sex and dignity are two words that don’t seem to belong together. Sex is innately and joyously undignified, while the word dignity often implies primness and good posture. Yet in his new treatise on “The Joy of Love,” Pope Francis uses the word dignity 26 times, several times in a specifically sexual context. This led […] Read More

Spring Festival: Joyous, Sensuous, Fertile

March 25, 2016
This is an explosively fertile week: Easter, with its eggs and resurrection; Holi, the Hindu festival of colors; Nowruz, meaning new light, the Persian New Year; Wicca’s Ostara; the Druid Eostar; Purim, celebrating survival of the Jewish people; and the official first day of spring. Flowers are blooming — my yard, though it gets only […] Read More


Saints, Sex, and Confessions: A Ramble

March 16, 2016
I long held the mistaken idea that saints always abstained from sex. I did know that St. Augustine had written his relatively steamy Confessions. But did not take in that he’d had a lover for 13 years, until I saw publication of a new novel The Confessions of X, written from the viewpoint of that […] Read More

Promiscuity and Spirituality: A Different View

March 11, 2016
Had a small change of heart as I was driving to my office this morning (38 minutes, so I have time to think). In my previous post, I expressed skepticism about a search for God being a driver of promiscuity. What I realized today is that my novel Cobalt Blue is about that very thing: […] Read More

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Spiritual Search and Promiscuous Sex

February 19, 2016
Is sexual promiscuity ever a spiritual quest? An effort to satisfy spiritual hunger? A friend suggested I write about this. I’ve delayed getting to it, because I’m skeptical. My sense is that “sleeping around” is most often a quest for love, power, pleasure, adventure, and/or a view of one’s self as rakish/seductive/desirable. Any combo of […] Read More


Mermaids: They’re All Around Us

February 3, 2016
Lately I’ve gotten acquainted with a mermaid. Her name is Shelley Opearls. She has been keeping me up on mermaid life in the Southeast. As a native of coastal Wilmington NC, I’m of course a great fan of merfolk and their particular grace and enchantment. I’m not alone. Mermaid Shelley burbles: I certainly have been […] Read More

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Spiritual Body Language

January 8, 2016
“Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are.” This wildly popular TED talk reveals postures that create confidence. Who doesn’t want confidence? Amy Cuddy’s 21 minutes of advice on the subject is the second most popular TED talk ever. More than thirty million people have seen it online. The postures she describes that create confidence and […] Read More

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The Sexy Spirituality of New Year’s Traditions

December 31, 2015
The first moments of the New Year are upon us, saturated with ritual, spiritual meaning, alcohol, and social pressure. These days I don’t much give a damn about New Year’s Eve, or so I tell myself. Back when I was single (32 years ago), I did give a damn. It was a night when I […] Read More

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